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S U M M A R Y


DIARY: July 31, 2010 10:21 PM Saturday; Rod Welch

In memoriam - Millie walks with angels.

1...Summary/Objective
...................Everybody loves Millie!
2...Put a Little Love in Your Heart
3...Stand by Me


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Tribute Millie Buck Walks With Angels In Memoriam Rest In Peace RIP                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        
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050501 - Follow up ref SDS 12 0000, ref SDS 11 0000.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           
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050901 - Following letter was prepared today, and sent on 100802...                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        
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050903 -    1.  Subject: In Memoriam - Millie Walks with Angels                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
050904 -        Date: Mon, 02 Aug 2010 10:33:48 -0700                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      
050918 -  ----> suddjian@jps.net               Candi Suddjian                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       
050961 -         ..
050962 -    2.  Thanks to all for calls of condolence and support.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         
051046 -         ..
051047 -    3.  Millie age 74, died Thursday, July 29, 2010 5 pm, ending her                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051048 -        life's work of family and citizen. ref SDS 10 2B7I  A picture                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        
051049 -        just days ago radiates love and sparkle that lifted her life...                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051050 -                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051051 -   
051053 -         ..
051054 -    4.  On August 7, 2010, we celebrate this wonderful life in                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     
051055 -        memoriam.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  
051057 -         ..
051058 -    5.  Millie is survived by her children Ron, Pam, and Steve, along                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051059 -        with many grandchildren, and by Millie's sister Dorothy, and                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051060 -        brothers Frank and Bob.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    
051061 -                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051062 -            [On 100807 1300 memorial services for Millie at her son Ron                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        
051063 -            and Kim's home in Clayton. ref SDS 34 RJ5H                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       
051070 -         ..
051071 -    6.  Millie grew up in Chicago, a year younger than sister Dorothy,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051072 -        and older than twin brothers Frank and Richard, and 5 years                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                
051073 -        older than Bob.  Millie's strong character formed enduring                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 
051074 -        relationships, shown by lifelong friend Marilyn from grade                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 
051075 -        school.  She took her brother Bob into her home, when he was                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051076 -        still in high school, because their mother died early at age                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051077 -        42.  Parting from Ron Sr after 27 years, he remained in                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    
051078 -        Millie's heart for the next 30 years, sharing lives of their                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051079 -        children and grandchildren, now nearly all grown into citizens                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051080 -        of the world.  Dear friends Peggy beginning in 1975, and Janna                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051081 -        in 1995, were continuously in Millie's life, and at her side at                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051082 -        the end.  Thanks to Pam, Marilyn still in Chicago spoke to                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 
051083 -        Millie, along with others at a distance saying tearful                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     
051084 -        good-byes.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 
051086 -         ..
051087 -    7.  Millie bragged that her Polish peasant stock, "strong like                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 
051088 -        bull," helped meet difficult challenges.  Her pioneer spirit                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051089 -        led the wave of modern women in the mid-50s.  She raised a                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 
051090 -        family, managed her home, social life, and career.  Millie's                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051091 -        beauty and charm were balanced by honor, integrity, prudence,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051092 -        adventure, and a keen interest in the world and politics.  She                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051093 -        read widely and voraciously, and loved going to the movies.  A                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051094 -        striking personality of calm reserve, and respect for others                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051095 -        made Millie forceful and delightful.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       
051096 -                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051097 -            [On 100807 1300 Peggy eulogy telling family and friends of                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         
051098 -            Millie being a pioneer for career women breaking through                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051099 -            the "glass ceiling" with appointment to "account manager"                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051100 -            in the textile industry, where Millie traveled to                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      
051101 -            Graniteville headquarters in New York and manufacturing                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                
051102 -            facilities in Atlanta. ref SDS 34 IU60                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           
051104 -         ..
051105 -    8.  One thing everyone says about Millie...                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    
051106 -                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051107 -                   Everybody loves Millie!                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        
051109 -         ..
051110 -    9.  She was loved at home (see Valentine's Day letter on 960214                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                
051111 -        0636. ref SDS 1 4K5P), by a large family, many friends,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051112 -        neighbors, on the job, and in recent years by a terrific team                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051113 -        of doctors and nurses who sustained Millie with care and                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051114 -        devotion.  Fellow patients loved Millie, including at the                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  
051115 -        Wellness Community Center in Walnut Creek.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 
051116 -                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051117 -            [On 100807 1300 Ron Junior and Pam memorialized their mom                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          
051118 -            with loving memories during services at Ron and Kim's home,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051119 -            ref SDS 34 IU53, and which included the recent video of                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          
051120 -            Millie modeling her new dress presented below. ref SDS 0                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051121 -            NM4F                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051123 -         ..
051124 -   10.  Millie's skills on the job, talent with people, and infectious                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051125 -        power to lift spirits shines through in her boss' annual                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051126 -        performance review at Lillick and Charles (later Nixon &                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051127 -        Peabody)...                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                
051129 -         ..
051130 -        "I am writing this down so if I ever get run over by a truck, I                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051131 -        want the world to know wonderful you are!"                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 
051132 -                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051133 -   
051134 -                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051144 -         ..
051145 -   11.  Millie was an athlete.  She had exceptional balance, timing,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051146 -        and hand-eye coordination, combined with determination for                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 
051147 -        excellence.  During the 1960s, while in Chicago, she and                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051148 -        husband Ron teamed to win state badminton tournaments.  Millie                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051149 -        won individual championships, as well.  Moving to San Francisco                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051150 -        in the 1970s, she excelled at tennis.  One rainy day at the                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                
051151 -        Golden Gateway tennis club, everyone stopped playing to avoid                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051152 -        falling on wet courts.  Then it hailed.  Millie said: "Lets                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                
051153 -        keep playing, because no one will bump us."  We played a whole                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051154 -        set with hail pounding the court.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          
051156 -         ..
051157 -   12.  Millie took up running in the 80s.  That's how we met in 1980                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051158 -        -- running along the Embacadero in San Francisco.  In 1973, I                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051159 -        fell 40 feet into a pump station, and missed by inches                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     
051160 -        splattering on equipment at the bottom.  Odds of survival were                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051161 -        1 in 1000.  Odds of me meeting someone like Millie, however,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051162 -        were 1 in 1,000,000; so it was a miracle surviving to run into                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051163 -        Millie, and somehow inspire her love and devotion.  One year,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051164 -        Millie injured her foot on a run out to Fort Point beneath the                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051165 -        Golden Gate Bridge, about 12 miles round trip; so we switched                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051166 -        to biking across the bridge into Sausalito, and then caught the                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051167 -        Ferry and watched the sun set going back to the Golden Gateway                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051168 -        Center.  That was our home for 15 years, on the 16th floor                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 
051169 -        overlooking the bay in downtown San Francisco.  We biked to St                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051170 -        Helena and stopped all along the way up and back for wine                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  
051171 -        tasting, about a 50 mile trip.  Our last bike ride was some 20                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051172 -        miles out to the Cliff House and down highway 1 along the                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  
051173 -        ocean.  Returning was a "tricky" adventure getting up enough                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051174 -        speed on the downhills to peddal up the hills on Bush Street                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051175 -        during rush hour, and timing the lights to avoid stopping.  We                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051176 -        made it with a few close calls; but, then gave up biking rather                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051177 -        than risk running out of luck.  On other rides I was hit by a                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051178 -        cars and flipped off the bike riding through Fisherman's Wharf,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051179 -        and again in Sausalito.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    
051203 -             ..
051204 -            [On 100807 1300 memorial services many spoke of Millie's                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           
051205 -            amazng talents and character, ref SDS 34 KM9F, making her a                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      
051206 -            great "prize" which she alone could award, so being chosen                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051207 -            her partner was a great honor, and an equal privilege                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  
051208 -            living with Millie 24/7 for 30 years. ref SDS 34 MY6H                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051210 -         ..
051211 -   13.  Millie loved her commute to work taking the elevator to the 3rd                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051212 -        floor, walking across a foot-bridge to the Embacadero Center,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051213 -        and taking the elevator to the 17th floor.  Coming home for                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                
051214 -        lunch was a delight.  Sometimes Millie hosted elegant lucheons                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051215 -        for friends at the office.  She once managed to fit 50 people                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051216 -        into the apartment celebrating the 50th anniversary for the San                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051217 -        Francisco-Oakland Bay Bridge.  From the 16th floor balcony, you                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051218 -        could almost reach out and touch spectacular explosions of                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 
051219 -        light from fireworks sent skyward from barges under the bridge                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051220 -        less than a quarter mile away.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051222 -         ..
051223 -   14.  Just weeks ago, Benilda and Chris, friends still from the                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  
051224 -        office years ago, brought lunch and set an elegant table                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051225 -        celebrating enduring love for Millie...                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    
051226 -                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051227 -   
051229 -         ..
051230 -   15.  In 1983, Ross, by then at IBM, got us a discount to buy IBM's                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051231 -        first personal computer.  Over the next 30 years, this led to                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051232 -        seminal ideas and tools for saving lives, time, and money, but                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051233 -        without commercial success.  New ideas take time to refine and                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051234 -        catch on -- years, decades, even centuries.  Millie made a                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 
051235 -        judgement to support this effort.  She alone has given POIMS,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051236 -        Knowledge Management, Communication Metrics a chance to take                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051237 -        root, while Microsoft, IBM, HP, DOD, Harvard, Columbia,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    
051238 -        Stanford... everyone else gave up, reported on 070126,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     
051239 -        ref SDS 3 QH8L  Millie's doctors later said that "yoemans work"                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      
051240 -        providing deliberation in a "well ordered record" aided her                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                
051241 -        survival beyond belief, reported on 090213, ref SDS 5 FZ4H                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           
051242 -        Since "belief" is hard to transfer, time will tell if others                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051243 -        benefit from Millie's lone vigil that nurtured toil long enough                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051244 -        to one day bear fruit, and redeem her belief. ref OF 1 1116                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          
051245 -        While the future is uncertain, I was lucky and blessed beyond                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051246 -        measure to have Millie's boundless love.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051253 -             ..
051254 -            [On 100807 1300 memorial services many spoke of Millie's                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           
051255 -            amazng talents and character, ref SDS 34 KM9F, making her a                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      
051256 -            great "prize" which she alone could award, so being chosen                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051257 -            her partner was a great honor and provelege living with                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                
051258 -            Millie 24/7 for 30 years. ref SDS 34 MY6H                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        
051260 -             ..
051261 -            [On 100813 0133 at the moment the "sky has fallen"; yet,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           
051262 -            Millie remains a powerfully moving force that will somehow                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051263 -            see me through. ref SDS 37 IX4P                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  
051265 -         ..
051266 -   16.  In about 1985, Ross, took us to Yosemite.  Arriving at night,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051267 -        we struggled in the dark to find a place to sleep.  Yet,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051268 -        finally, high in the mountains looking up into the night sky                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051269 -        from sleeping bags on the ground was overwhelming.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         
051270 -        Unfathomable stars lit up the heavans compared to our lives at                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051271 -        sea level in San Francisco.  Next morning, a park ranger on                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                
051272 -        horseback scooted us from the make-shift camp next to a sign                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051273 -        saying "No Camping!"  That day, we hiked straight up 3-miles to                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051274 -        Yosemite Falls.  The guys ran ahead, and then stopped to rest.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051275 -        Millie, ever the sure and steady athlete, walked past smiling                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051276 -        and said "Coming boys?" Ross remembered Millie in a letter to                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051277 -        his son Hutch, reported on 041028 1151. ref SDS 2 EY4T                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051279 -         ..
051280 -   17.  In the 90s, Millie moved to Concord, closer to her children,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051281 -        Ron and Pam nearby in Clayton with their spouses Kim and Bill.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051282 -        She enjoyed seeing the grandchildren grow - Stephanie and Amy,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051283 -        and Nolan.  Millie liked the drive 100 miles or so to Grass                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                
051284 -        Valley, visiting her youngest son, Steve, and his wife Lilly,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051285 -        as their children Amanda, Matthew and Emily grew into young                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                
051286 -        adults.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    
051288 -         ..
051289 -   18.  In Concord, Mil met her friend Janna, both living in the Cowell                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051290 -        Terrace complex.  They began hiking the trails at Lafayette                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                
051291 -        reservoir, working out in the gym, enjoying social life...                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 
051292 -                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051293 -   
051295 -         ..
051296 -   19.  The clock ticked into the 21st century, and struck Millie with                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051297 -        cancer.  She was blessed with support of friends and her                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051298 -        children.  Ron, Pam, and Steve, all living near with growing                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051299 -        families and careers pitched in to facilitate great care from                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051300 -        Doctor Johnson and his assistant Arlette at Kaiser.  Over the                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051301 -        years, Millie's care changed course many times.  As cancer                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 
051302 -        progressed, Kaiser collaborated with Doctor Rugo and her team                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051303 -        at UCSF.  Millie worked hard to be a good partner coordinating                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051304 -        comprehensive care for nearly 10 years.  The doctor eventually                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051305 -        despaired because Millie survived much longer than expected, so                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051306 -        Kaiser ran out of treatments.  One day the doctor was crying in                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051307 -        explaining that communication failed with email and telephone                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051308 -        to arrange Millie's prescribed care at UCSF in time to be                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  
051309 -        effective. ref SDS 8 4F6I  Millie smiled and said...                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 
051311 -         ..
051312 -   20.  "I am peasant stock strong like bull!                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      
051313 -                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051314 -        Doctor Johnson, none of us will get out of this alive.  Do the                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051315 -        best you can, and leave the rest to God." - reported on 090515                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051316 -        1140. ref SDS 7 657K                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 
051317 -                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051318 -            [On 100731 1343 Doctor Johnson called with condolences on                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          
051319 -            Millie's memoriam, noting how beautiful Millie always                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  
051320 -            looked despite pain and suffering from delay getting                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051321 -            prescribed care. ref SDS 12 UH6I                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 
051339 -             ..
051340 -            [On 100927 1152 report hectic schedule at Kaiser doctor                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051341 -            still running around like "chicken with its head cut off."                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051342 -            ref SDS 41 GT5N                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  
051344 -         ..
051345 -   21.  Throughout, Millie remained active into her 70s hiking and                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 
051346 -        running at Lafayette Reservoir...                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          
051347 -                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051348 -   
051350 -         ..
051351 -   22.  She worked out regularly 4-times a week at the gym doing                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051352 -        aerobics, and traveled many times to Canyon Ranch in Arizona,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051353 -        with daughter Pam, and friends at the gym to extend her health                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051354 -        and exercise regimen...                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    
051355 -                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051356 -   
051358 -                 ..
051359 -                [On 100807 1300 several of Millie's friends from the                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           
051360 -                gym and Canyon Ranch spa excursions related personal                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051361 -                stories of their life with Millie. ref SDS 34 IV35                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           
051363 -         ..
051364 -   23.  One day, Millie reported back and neck pain.  Doctor Johnson                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051365 -        hurriedly ordered a battery of complex tests, then smiled and                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051366 -        canceled everything, when Millie said that Pam took her on a                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051367 -        25-mile bike ride the day before...                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        
051368 -                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051369 -   
051371 -         ..
051372 -   24.  The doctor recalled recommending exercise, but noted how                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051373 -        extraordinary for a 70 year old cancer patient, adding that few                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051374 -        20 year olds do 25-mile bike rides.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        
051376 -         ..
051377 -   25.  Even when weakened by cancer during the 8th relapse, at age 73,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051378 -        Millie followed doctor's orders to exercise.  Though the mind                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051379 -        was willing, she fell in January 2009, while working out at the                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051380 -        gym, and severely dislocated her shoulder causing excruciating                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051381 -        pain.  The shoulder improved during several months recovering                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051382 -        from the 8th relapse.  Millie tried her best to resume workouts                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051383 -        at the gym, and hiking at Lafayette reservoir.  This became                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                
051384 -        difficult with delay getting treatment in time to be effective                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051385 -        relieving weakness and fatigue caused by cancer.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           
051387 -         ..
051388 -   26.  Millie's respect for people drove insistence on punctuality;                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051389 -        yet, manners and decency accomodated others.  She planned ahead                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051390 -        to arrive on time at Kaiser, then played dominos waiting for                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051391 -        the doctor to arrive 20, 40, 90 minutes late.  When the doctor                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051392 -        peeked into the examination room and said "Just 10 more                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    
051393 -        minutes," Millie would reply... "Don't rush, I'm winning!"                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 
051394 -        Delay starting meetings did not disrupt recovery, because                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  
051395 -        Doctor Johnson gave Millie all the time required for                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       
051396 -        comprehensive care in the examination room, at least 40 minutes                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051397 -        and sometimes 2 hours managing expanding complications.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    
051399 -         ..
051400 -   27.  Over 10 years, Millie had 72 major changes in her care,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    
051401 -        including 17 different treatments, 11 relapses (reported on                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                
051402 -        090213, ref SDS 5 AC6G), and coincidentally 11 trips to the                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          
051403 -        Emergency Room for life-ending threats.  She was notified 12                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051404 -        times to get her affairs in order to die in months.  Doctor                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                
051405 -        Johnson often called Millie "amazing" and "unique," like a                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 
051406 -        "medical miracle," e.g., on 090325 0830. ref SDS 6 P39M                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051407 -        Millie took everything in stride.  Never complained, and did                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051408 -        her best to get things done, while recovering in the                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       
051409 -        hospital...                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                
051410 -                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051411 -   
051413 -             ..
051414 -            [On 111005 Steve Jobs, CEO Apple Computer, died after 7                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051415 -            year battle with cancer. ref SDS 43 I45H                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         
051417 -         ..
051418 -   28.  Millie radiated optimism for a better future, essential for                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                
051419 -        treating cancer as a "chronic disease," planned by Doctor                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  
051420 -        Johnson at Kaiser beginning on 080829, shown in case study on                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051421 -        090213. ref SDS 5 PT3N  In 2007, she told Doctor Rugo at UCSF                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        
051422 -        Cancer Center of hopes for recovery to hike 7-miles up Mt                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  
051423 -        Diablo, which she had done twice before getting cancer, and                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                
051424 -        thus show that cancer need not be a death sentence.  We                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    
051425 -        eventually made it to Deer Flat, half-way to the top of Mt                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 
051426 -        Diablo.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    
051427 -                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051428 -                 [On 100801 1642 Millie's children notified their                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051429 -                 mother demonstrated cancer can be treated as a                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    
051430 -                 "chronic disease" to extend survival and quality of                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051431 -                 life by orders of magnitude, which at this time is                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                
051432 -                 beyond reach of those who know, and beyond imagination                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051433 -                 of those who do not know, what Millie accomplished.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051434 -                 ref SDS 17 TJ6R                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051436 -                  ..
051437 -                 [On 100803 1212 letter from Arlette at Kaiser with                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051438 -                 condolences, and asking why Millie could not get                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  
051439 -                 treatment in time to be effective; what could have                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                
051440 -                 been done that wasn't done, and what was done that                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                
051441 -                 should not have been done? ref SDS 21 4R3G                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  
051443 -                  ..
051444 -                 [On 100804 1118 letter from Catherine at UCSF with                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051445 -                 condolences, and saying Millie was an amazing woman                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051446 -                 surviving stage IV cancer 4 times longer than                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     
051447 -                 actuarially possible, and with a life worth living.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051448 -                 ref SDS 28 FL7X                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051450 -                  ..
051451 -                 [On 100804 1208 Millie's children notified of                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 
051452 -                 Catherine's condolence on the memoriam, and working                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051453 -                 with Millie at UCSF, ref SDS 29 F59S, also, reported                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        
051454 -                 Carol's powerfully moving praise of Millie inspiring                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051455 -                 patients, doctors, and nurses at Kaiser, ref SDS 29                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         
051456 -                 F59P                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051458 -                  ..
051459 -                 [On 100809 1338 Tara, who treated Millie at UCSF,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051460 -                 reported Millie was an amazing woman, and UCSF was                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                
051461 -                 lucky for the opportunity to provide care. ref SDS 36                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       
051462 -                 WB7O                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051464 -                  ..
051465 -                 [On 100817 1715 Arlette called with appreciation from                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         
051466 -                 Kaiser Oncology Department for flowers commemorating                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051467 -                 Millie's care the past 10 years. ref SDS 38 QS5H                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051469 -                  ..
051470 -                 [On 100909 0905 letter to Diane, Catherine, Tara,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051471 -                 Doctor Rugo, Doctor Johnson, with thanks for                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      
051472 -                 condolences on Millie's memoriam, and noting the team                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051473 -                 made progress treating cancer as a chronic disease,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051474 -                 and now there is time to assess what was done well                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                
051475 -                 that can help others, and what could have been done                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051476 -                 better for better outcomes. ref SDS 40 TY7W                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 
051478 -         ..
051479 -   29.  Though cancer worsened, Millie did not give up.  She continued                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051480 -        resolving delays getting treatment, working to the end on                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  
051481 -        100719 0522. ref SDS 9 JH6W  With mounting issues of her own,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        
051482 -        she still counseled and comforted others through wrenching                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 
051483 -        difficulties, including patients in the Chemotherapy Clinic and                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051484 -        at the Wellness Community support group.  She eased burdens and                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051485 -        inspired doctors and nurses suffering anxiety from distraught,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051486 -        declining patients.  Humor was Mil's guardian against despair,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051487 -        saying recently while doing the laundry... "Hey Rod, put                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051488 -        something in the claim for "Spray and Wash" so we can get these                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051489 -        darn blood stains out of my blouse."                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       
051490 -                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051491 -            [On 100804 1905 Elizabeth, member of Wellness Community                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051492 -            offers condolences on tribute in memoriam for Millie.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  
051493 -            ref SDS 32 KP8F                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  
051495 -             ..
051496 -            [On 110502 2239 Emily, member Wellness Community notifies                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          
051497 -            memory of Millie inspires participating in Relay for Life                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051498 -            charity hike also raising funds for cancer research.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051499 -            ref SDS 42 BH5I                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  
051501 -         ..
051502 -   30.  "Put a little love your heart" was Millie's prescription when                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051503 -        confronted with peril, reflecting Jackie DeShannon's wonderful                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051504 -        recording in 1969, ref SDS 0 BF4N,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         
051506 -         ..
051507 -   31.  "Stand by me" first performed by Ben King in 1961, and later by                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051508 -        John Lennon in 1975, was another favorite song. ref SDS 0 LC4G                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051509 -        Millie stood by others lending willing hands to her last once                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051510 -        of strength.  Words cannot express the joy and elation that                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                
051511 -        flowed from "standing by" Millie to see her smile through great                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051512 -        trials, but enjoying a wonderful life for most of her time with                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051513 -        cancer.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    
051515 -         ..
051516 -   32.  "Your still alive!!"  -- was the common greeting for Millie                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                
051517 -        with generous hugs from doctors and nurses beginning in 2008,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051518 -        (see Doctor Riley-Paul on 080606, ref SDS 4 0T6I), and                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051519 -        especially in 2009, getting care at Kaiser again, after 3 years                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051520 -        on referral to UCSF.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       
051522 -         ..
051523 -   33.  Millie remained to her last breath a "shining city on a hill,"                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051524 -        a beacon of courage and hope for patients filled with doubt and                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051525 -        fear navigating life with cancer.  In dire straits from the 1st                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051526 -        to her final relapse, Millie always gave "thumbs up" to look on                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051527 -        the bright side...                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         
051528 -                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051529 -   
051531 -             ..
051532 -            [On 100909 0905 letter to Diane, Catherine, Tara, Doctor                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           
051533 -            Rugo, Doctor Johnson, with thanks for condolences on                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051534 -            Millie's memoriam, and noting the team made progress                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051535 -            treating cancer as a chronic disease, and now there is time                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051536 -            to assess how what was done well can help others, and what                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051537 -            could have been done better for a better outcome.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      
051538 -            ref SDS 40 TY7W                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  
051540 -         ..
051541 -   34.  Twice Millie was rushed to Emergency care for cat bite                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     
051542 -        infection, which spreads quickly and is often fatal for cancer                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051543 -        patients on chemotherapy.  Even when told to call her executor                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051544 -        and get her affairs in order, nothing could dissuade Millie                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                
051545 -        from keeping her Sweetie...                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                
051546 -                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051547 -   
051548 -                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051549 -                 [On 100803 1212 letter from Arlette, who shared                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051550 -                 Millie's love of her cats. ref SDS 21 KP8F                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  
051552 -         ..
051553 -   35.  In the past few years, Millie enjoyed going on ocean cruises                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051554 -        with Marilyn.  They went first to Alaska, and later to                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     
051555 -        Panama...                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  
051556 -                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051557 -   
051559 -         ..
051560 -   36.  Millie went to Europe with Ron and Kim in 2007...                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          
051561 -                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051562 -   
051564 -         ..
051565 -   37.  January of this year was very difficult with rising medical                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                
051566 -        complications.  The family celebrated her birthday on the 21st,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051567 -        and proposed another Mediterranean cruise in May....                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       
051568 -                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051569 -   
051571 -         ..
051572 -   38.  Millie immediately made arrangements despite contracting severe                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051573 -        infection from shingles, and her 10th relapse of cancer.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051574 -        Doctor Johnson encouraged Millie to fight on, reminding she                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                
051575 -        promised to go on the cruise with her family in May.  So,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  
051576 -        despite rising pain from chemotherapy, Millie kept her promise,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051577 -        again showing eternal optimism on her final voyage...                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      
051578 -                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051579 -   
051581 -         ..
051582 -   39.  In late June with hope fading, Millie's family gathered from                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051583 -        around the country, bringing her brothers and sister together                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051584 -        for the first time in 40 years...                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          
051585 -                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051586 -   
051588 -         ..
051589 -   40.  A week or so ago, Millie's friend Peggy called.  Mil said she                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051590 -        wanted to go shopping for a new dress, because losing weight                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051591 -        nothing fit.  Peggy and her husband Bob, drove over to Concord                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051592 -        from their home 60 miles away in Foster City...                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051593 -                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051594 -   
051596 -         ..
051597 -   41.  They went to Macey's.  Millie was thrilled with results finding                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051598 -        just the right outfit for her next meeting with Doctor Johnson                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051599 -        to recover from the 11th relapse.  She marked the occasion with                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051600 -        a video thanking Peggy for being a good friend forever, and                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                
051601 -        demonstrating verve, energy, and joy that lifted everyone she                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051602 -        touched...                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 
051603 -                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051604 -              c:\sd\wl\pic\buck-millie\100714\100_1310.wmv                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         
051606 -         ..
051607 -   42.  Last Saturday, Millie went to the movies with Pam.  She passed                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051608 -        the torch to the next generation still with sparkle and love of                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051609 -        life in her heart...                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       
051610 -                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051611 -   
051612 -                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051613 -            [On 100804 2346 Kathy noted that come what may, Millie                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051614 -            always engaged the world with a beautiful smile.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       
051615 -            ref SDS 33 KP8F                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  
051617 -         ..
051618 -   43.  Millie was very grateful for outstanding care, and wonderful                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
051619 -        attention from everyone in Hospice, especially Linda, who cried                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051620 -        on seeing Millie fail so suddenly on Thursday, and then "moved                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051621 -        heaven and earth" to ensure Millie's comfort, reported on                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  
051622 -        100729 0510. ref SDS 10 6Q4K                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         
051623 -                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051624 -            [On 100804 0653 Karen, Millie's niece, and a nurse, feels                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          
051625 -            everyone did a good job making life's inevitable ending                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                
051626 -            comfortable for Millie and binding for her family and                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  
051627 -            friends. ref SDS 26 PW5V                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         
051629 -         ..
051630 -   44.  After putting everything in order -- bills paid, shopping done,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
051631 -        car washed, funeral arrangements, and instructions to carry on                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051632 -        -- decline came quickly in just 2 days at home in bed, and as                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051633 -        she wished.  With family and friends at her side, Millie alas                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
051634 -        said "yes" to God, ending her journey with courage and dignity                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
051635 -        that permeated her soul.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
051637 -         ..
051638 -   45.  Dearest, lovely Millie now walks with angels.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
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SUBJECTS
Millie Loved Music Favorite Songs Put Little Love in Your Heart Jack                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                
                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        
0803 -                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     
080401 -  ..
080402 - Put a Little Love in Your Heart                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  
080403 - 
080404 - by Jackie DeShannon................................ ref SDS 0 OL8J                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                
080405 -                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
080406 -              http://www.lyricsbox.com/jackie-deshannon-lyrics-put-a-little-love-in-your-heart-rpxm18l.html                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    
080407 -                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
080408 -        Think of your fellow man                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
080409 -        lend him a helping hand                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    
080410 -        put a little love in your heart.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           
080411 -        You see it's getting late                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  
080412 -        oh please don't hesitate                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
080413 -        put a little love in your heart.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           
080414 -        And the world will be a better place                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       
080415 -        and the world will be a better place                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       
080416 -        for you and me                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
080417 -        you just wait and see                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      
080419 -         ..
080420 -        Another day goes by                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                        
080421 -        and still the children cry                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 
080422 -        put a little love in your heart.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           
080423 -        If you want the world to know                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
080424 -        we won't let hatred grow                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
080425 -        put a little love in your heart.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           
080426 -        And the world will be a better place                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       
080427 -        and the world will be a better place                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       
080428 -        for you and me                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
080429 -        you just wait and see                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      
080431 -         ..
080432 -        Take a good look around and                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                
080433 -        if you're lookin' down                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     
080434 -        put a little love in your heart                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                            
080435 -        I hope when you decide                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     
080436 -        kindness will be your guide                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                
080437 -        put a little love in your heart.                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           
080438 -        And the world will be a better place                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       
080439 -        and the world will be a better place                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       
080440 -        for you and me                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
080441 -        you just wait and see                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      
080442 -        put a little love in your heart each and every day                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         
080443 -        put a little love in your heart there's no other way                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       
080444 -        put a lttle love in your heart, it's up to you                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
080445 -        put a little love in your heart...                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                         
080446 -                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
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090401 -  ..
090402 - Stand by Me                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                      
090403 - 
090404 - by Ben King and later John Lennon.................. ref SDS 0 646J                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                
090405 -                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
090406 -              http://www.weddingvendors.com/music/lyrics/b/ben-e-king/stand-by-me/                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                             
090407 -                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
090408 -        When the night has come                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                    
090409 -        And the land is dark                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                       
090410 -        And the moon is the only light we'll see                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
090411 -        No I won't be afraid, no I won't be afraid                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                 
090412 -        Just as long as you stand, stand by me                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     
090414 -         ..
090415 -        And darlin', darlin', stand by me, oh now now stand by me                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                  
090416 -        Stand by me, stand by me                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
090418 -         ..
090419 -        If the sky that we look upon                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
090420 -        Should tumble and fall                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     
090421 -        And the mountains should crumble to the sea                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                
090422 -        I won't cry, I won't cry, no I won't shed a tear                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                           
090423 -        Just as long as you stand, stand by me                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     
090425 -         ..
090426 -        And darlin', darlin', stand by me, oh stand by me                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          
090427 -        Stand by me, stand by me, stand by me-e, yeah                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                              
090429 -         ..
090430 -        Whenever you're in trouble won't you stand by me,                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                          
090431 -        oh now now stand by me                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                     
090432 -        Oh stand by me, stand by me, stand by me                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
090434 -         ..
090435 -        Darlin', darlin', stand by me-e, stand by me                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                               
090436 -        Oh stand by me, stand by me, stand by me                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                                   
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