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0403 -    ..
0404 - Summary/Objective
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040501 - Follow up ref SDS 16 0000. ref SDS 15 0000.
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0408 - Background
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040901 - On 100731 1330 Pam and Kim explain plans for memorial service to
040902 - celebrate Millie's life; will be on 100807 1300 at Ron and Kim's.
040903 - 100731 1330, ref SDS 9 KA5H  Pam needs account information to manage
040904 - Millie's estate.  Made a copy of Millie's contact record.  Discuss
040905 - plans to send memoriam notifying family, friends, and co-workers of
040906 - Millie's death. 100731 1330, ref SDS 9 UN73
040908 -  ..
040909 - On 100731 1343 Doctor Johnson called during the meeting with
040910 - condolences; Pam and Kim listened on the speaker phone, reported in
040911 - another record today. ref SDS 10 5E5H
040913 -  ..
040914 - On 100731 2221 memoriam for Millie prepared and submitted to family
040915 - for comments and edits. ref SDS 11 RJ5H
040917 -  ..
040918 - On 100801 1310 received comments from Pam on first drafe memoriam for
040919 - Millie. ref SDS 13 KP8F
040921 -  ..
040922 - On 100801 1332 notified Pam that her edit suggestions were applied.
040923 - ref SDS 14 KP8F
040925 -  ..
040926 - On 100801 1342 received letter from Ron Senior, Millie's first
040927 - husband, and commenting favorably on memoriam for Millie, ref SDS 15
040928 - KP8F, issued 100731, and shown in the record at that time. 100731
040929 - 2221, ref SDS 11 RJ5H
040931 -  ..
040932 - On 100801 1632 letter from Ron Junior asks about purpose of memoriam
040933 - for Millie and notes that other people important to her life should be
040934 - mentioned. ref SDS 16 KP8F
040936 -  ..
040937 - On 100801 1642 letter to Ron Junior explains purpose of memoriam to
040938 - explain Millie's life from one perspective, and that others will have
040939 - unique history which they can present in their own way. ref SDS 0 KP8F
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0412 - Progress
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041301 - Letter to Ron Junior saying...
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041303 -    1.  Subject: Re: Draft Memoriam for Mil
041304 -        Date: Sun, 01 Aug 2010 17:29:11 -0700
041312 -         ..
041313 -    3.  I agree there is no "right answer" to presenting your mom's
041314 -        wonderful story. [...responding to Ron Junior's letter received
041315 -        earlier today, 100801 1632, ref SDS 16 KP8F, commenting on
041316 -        first draft of memoriam for Millie. 100731 2221, ref SDS 11
041317 -        RJ5H...]
041319 -         ..
041320 -    4.  Kim and Pam called a few hours ago and made suggestions, which
041321 -        have been implemented.  Please talk to them, and then we can
041322 -        coordinate further.  My intent is to strike a good balance for
041323 -        everyone.
041325 -         ..
041326 -    5.  Kim and Pam are sending a short version with just notification
041327 -        of the memorial at your home, as you suggest. [...referencing
041328 -        Ron Junior's letter received earlier today on 100801 1632.
041329 -        ref SDS 16 C43W, and reflecting Ron's edits. ref SDS 16
041330 -        WH6I...]
041332 -         ..
041333 -    6.  My purpose is to share my feelings for your mom in relation to
041334 -        her total life, and to credit people important to her.  As much
041335 -        as possible, I want others to experience what Millie meant to
041336 -        me. [...memoriam on 100731, ref SDS 11 4R8K...]  Of course this
041337 -        is just one view, so you, Steve, and Pam can share other
041338 -        perspectives.  There's no one story for your mom.  So I
041339 -        encourage others to write independently, yet remain committed
041340 -        to helping the family accomplish your purposes in celebrating
041341 -        your mom's life.
041342 -
041343 -            [On 100801 2253 Pam notifies in a letter that the family
041344 -            edited the initial draft of the memoriam to provide a
041345 -            general presentation on Millie, and to fit a printed
041346 -            handout. ref SDS 17 4Q49
041348 -         ..
041349 -    7.  I share your concern about leaving out people.  We all decided
041350 -        yesterday to work from a draft.  Please let me know who needs
041351 -        to be included, and how they can be presented in the narrative.
041352 -        My aim is to be inclusive.  [...responding to Ron Junior's
041353 -        letter noting important people in Millie's life are not
041354 -        mentinoed in memoriam. 100801 1632, ref SDS 16 C44P...]  For
041355 -        example, Chris T****r should be mentioned.  The problem is
041356 -        where to draw the line.
041358 -         ..
041359 -    8.  I know many examples that illustrate your mom's accomplishments
041360 -        and deeds that underscore her character, asked about in your
041361 -        letter. [...received on 100801 1632. ref SDS 16 C44P...]
041363 -         ..
041364 -    9.  Pam wrote earlier today saying the piece is "nice, but long."
041365 -        ...[reported on 100801 1310. ref SDS 12 KP8F...]  Your dad
041366 -        commented that it is "a very fine piece." [...reported on
041367 -        100801 1342. ref SDS 15 KP8F
041369 -         ..
041370 -   10.  At Kaiser and UCSF, they feel your mom accomplished a lot by
041371 -        living 4 times longer than disease trajectory.  Doctor Johnson
041372 -        told your mom routinely since 2004, that she was unique, a
041373 -        medical marvel.  Last Friday morning Paula McPhail called from
041374 -        Kaiser.  She was crying saying news of your mom's passing just
041375 -        flashed throughout Kaiser.  She was effusive that Millie is a
041376 -        "Poster for cancer survivors." 100730 0928, ref SDS 3 N580
041377 -        Paula was moved in part because she lost her dad to cancer a
041378 -        few years ago after just 2 years of treatment.  Paula saw the
041379 -        picture of Millie a few days before she died and was
041380 -        overwhelmed that Millie maintained herself so well right to the
041381 -        end.  Arlette called in the afternoon on Friday, also crying
041382 -        and saying the same thing.  Doctor Johnson called here
041383 -        yesterday when Kim and Pam visited.  He wasn't crying, but they
041384 -        heard the doctor say the same things. [...reported on 100731
041385 -        1343, ref SDS 10 UH6I...]  Millie was a towering example of
041386 -        achievement beyond reach to those who know what she did, and
041387 -        beyond imagination of those don't.
041389 -         ..
041390 -   11.  I summarize all this - that your mom went through a tough deal
041391 -        with flying colors - by saying simply that she embraced life
041392 -        with "courage and dignity." [...shown in memoriam on 100731
041393 -        2221. ref SDS 11 EP5L...]  Perhaps this is understated in the
041394 -        memoriam.  I tried to strike a balance based on what I know,
041395 -        but others surely have important perspective on your mom's
041396 -        accomplishments.
041398 -         ..
041399 -   12.  The girls now have my final edits.  They plan to produce a
041400 -        printed handout for folks who attend Mil's memorial next week
041401 -        at your place.  Please help them shape the narrative along the
041402 -        lines in your letter.
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041404 -            [On 100801 2253 Pam notifies in a letter that the family
041405 -            edited the initial draft of the memoriam to provide a
041406 -            general presentation on Millie, and to fit a printed
041407 -            handout. ref SDS 17 4Q49
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