CONTACTS 
0205 - Cabrillo Care Center                                                                                                                                               O-00000870 0706
020501 - Ms. Dorothy Welch; Resident

SUBJECTS
Notify Family Friends Mother Died Alert to Memorial Services
Condolence Letter on Mother and Memorial 070216 Long Relationship Mo

0704 -
0704 -    ..
0705 - Summary/Objective
0706 -
070601 - Follow up ref SDS 39 0000. ref SDS 38 0000.
070602 -
070603 -
070604 -
070605 -
070606 -
070608 -  ..
0707 -
0708 -
0709 - Progress
0710 -
071001 - Received ref DRT 1 0001 dated 070215 from Uncle Jim responding to
071002 - notice of mother passing on 070205, ref DIP 5 0001, and which was
071003 - submitted to Rita for Uncle Jim and Aunt Barbara on 070207.
071004 - ref SDS 39 TG6H  Memorial services were held on 070216. ref SDS 42
071005 - TG6H  Another letter, ref DIP 7 0001, was submitted with a copy to
071006 - Rita late in the evening on 070216 reporting on the services and
071007 - requesting that she assist her folks with the record. ref SDS 42 YG5N
071009 -  ..
071010 - Uncle Jim says in his letter on 070215...
071011 -
071012 -    1.  I'm sorry not to have responded to your telephone message
071013 -        concerning your mother passing sooner, however we more or less
071014 -        waited for a follow on as to any services, etc, even though our
071015 -        age and frailties prevent attending.
071017 -         ..
071018 -    2.  We are both most sorry to know that your mother has left us and
071019 -        in fact were unaware she was in a failing health condition.  We
071020 -        have kept in touch with her by an occassional telephone visit.
071021 -        The last we talked she seemed to be doing okay.  We enjoyed
071022 -        those calls, keeping in touch with her and knowing that life
071023 -        was treating her pretty well in spite of the old demon of the
071024 -        elderly --- years --- always years creeping along each day.
071026 -  ..
071027 - Mother's health began to fail about 5 years ago with advancing
071028 - emphasema, and then constant pain from osteoperosus.  She was not a
071029 - complainer, and bore her problems with courage and determination not
071030 - to burden others, as Uncle Jim relates today.
071032 -  ..
071033 - One year Millie and I were visiting mother and Bob in Nipomo.  Mother
071034 - commented on fond memories of Uncle Jim and Aunt Barbara.  I called
071035 - Uncle Jim and Aunt Barbara from Mother and Bob's home, so that mother
071036 - could talk to Aunt Barbara and renew their long friendship.
071037 -
071038 -            [...mention this in a letter to Uncle Jim. ref SDS 0 4W5V
071040 -  ..
071041 - Uncle Jim's letter continues...
071042 -
071043 -    3.  You children will miss your mother.  My father used to tell his
071044 -        boys, "Now, when your old dad is gon, you take care of your
071045 -        mother, she is the best friend you will ever have."  I don't
071046 -        actually subscribe to that Rod, but I will say, having lived
071047 -        almost half my lifetime past my mother's passing, that rarely
071048 -        is there an event of concern to me that my conscience does not
071049 -        flash a thought of my mother.  You mother will be always
071050 -        subconsciously still on your life.
071052 -  ..
071053 - The letter to Reverend Boyd on 070214 relates that mother was not
071054 - "mom" to us, owing to various circumstances (related in part through
071055 - remembrances on 070205, ref SDS 38 JY4G), yet remains a force in our
071056 - lives, ref SDS 41 3N4P, as Uncle Jim relates.  Us kids were lucky to
071057 - have Lillian come into dad's life, and she has been a great "mom" for
071058 - all these years.
071060 -  ..
071061 - Lucille Johnston, Diane's mother, became a sort of surrogate mother, a
071062 - listening post, especially after 1977, and until her passing reported
071063 - on 930825. ref SDS 2 0001  Lucille loved and admired Millie, as well.
071064 - She bequeathed her wedding rings to Millie, showing great and lasting
071065 - affection, also reported on 930825. ref SDS 2 PQWQ  We could talk
071066 - about my work, ideas, politics, religion, legal reasoning, management
071067 - practice, anything.  Lucille never said was I wrong.  When she said
071068 - "That's very interesting, Rod," and changed the subject, I knew a
071069 - particular thought needed more work.
071071 -  ..
071072 - I was fortunate to have 3 mothers, each who contributed something
071073 - special and important to my life.
071074 -
071075 -            [...mention this in a letter to Uncle Jim. ref SDS 0 989W
071077 -  ..
071078 - Uncle Jim's letter continues...
071079 -
071080 -    4.  She and your father were very good to your Aunt Barbara in my
071081 -        absence when she was alone during the war.  Your mother would
071082 -        pick her up most weekends and they would go to dinner, and then
071083 -        go dancing or see a movie.  My bride of five months was very
071084 -        appreciative of that; it made her life less lonely and at the
071085 -        same time a real friendship in a new family.  That your mother
071086 -        maintained the friendship through the years speaks to the
071087 -        thoughtful kindness of both your parents during the tumultuous
071088 -        wartime period.
071090 -  ..
071091 - Remembrances fo mother on 070205 mention that she and Aunt Barbara had
071092 - a warm friendship beginning during the war years. ref SDS 38 2642
071094 -  ..
071095 - Uncle Jim's letter continues...
071096 -
071097 -    5.  For her time, your mother is to be remembered with admiration
071098 -        for the family she brought into the world and the struggle of
071099 -        their proper care and raising.  In that respect she followed in
071100 -        the footsteps of my mother, albeit the Lord's task, both had a
071101 -        hard row to hoe.  I'm sure that the Good Lord in heaven has
071102 -        welcomed her also, into His care.
071104 -  ..
071105 - The letter to Reverend Jim presents mother's life in the context of
071106 - her time. ref SDS 41 3N4P
071108 -  ..
071109 - Uncle Jim's letter continues...
071110 -
071111 -    6.  You take care of yourself and tell the rest of the family hello
071112 -        for us.  Keep in touch.  I don't use the telephone anymore.  It
071113 -        is just too much trying to converse with someone and not
071114 -        clearly hear the conversation.  Too many jackhammers without
071115 -        ear plugs, too many arial gunnery flights with an unmuffled
071116 -        engine, too much hifi audios...
071117 -
071118 -
071120 -  ..
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0713 -
0714 - 0952
0715 -
071501 - Submitted ref DIT 1 0001 responding to Uncle Jim...
071502 -
071503 -    1.  Thanks very much for your letter on February 15th, with warm
071504 -        and generous thoughts for mother.  She always loved and
071505 -        respected you and and Aunt Barbara.  A few years ago, you came
071506 -        up in the conversation when Millie and I were in Nipomo
071507 -        visiting, and so I called your home.  After some pleasantries,
071508 -        I handed the phone to Mother.  She and Aunt Barbara started
071509 -        visiting again by telephone, as mentioned in your letter.
071510 -        ref SDS 0 JS9Q
071512 -         ..
071513 -    2.  You are certainly correct that I have been blessed to have
071514 -        mother.  Of course, Lillian, was "mom" during the teenage years
071515 -        coming to manhood, and remains so.  In adult life until 1993,
071516 -        Lucille Johnston, became a big force, just because she would
071517 -        listen for hours, and read my writing, and then help refine my
071518 -        ideas into something useful, if they could be salvaged at all.
071519 -        Mother, mom Lil, and Lucille all welcomed Millie in 1980.  I
071520 -        have been greatly blessed. ref SDS 0 JS9Y
071522 -         ..
071523 -    3.  Millie and I were pleased for Bob that so many family and
071524 -        friends attended the service on February 16th.  Understandably,
071525 -        many could not attend.  Your presence, however, is always felt
071526 -        at family occassions, and we carried on as you would have
071527 -        wished, as best we could.
071529 -         ..
071530 -    4.  I called Rita a few days ago.  She has been having trouble with
071531 -        email, but finally got the letter I sent on February 7th
071532 -        notifying of mother's passing, and the letter on February 16th
071533 -        that explains memorial services.
071535 -         ..
071536 -    5.  There is a record on remembrances of mother, focusing in part
071537 -        on her last day, and thoughts of her husband Bob, and Millie
071538 -        and I, who were with mother, and also presenting fragmentary
071539 -        memory of those early years when she was our mom from 1943 when
071540 -        Kath was born until about 1953 or so.  Rita planned to print
071541 -        the record so you can comment, if you wish, on the account of
071542 -        the world war II period. (went ahead and attached a copy)
071544 -         ..
071545 -    6.  As well, if you have access to a computer, you can open the
071546 -        record directly. ref SDS 38 0001
071548 -         ..
071549 -    7.  Reading online provides a richer experience with links for
071550 -        precision access to related context, noted by Reverend Boyd,
071551 -        who presided over services for mother on 070216. ref SDS 42
071552 -        6W8M
071554 -         ..
071555 -    8.  There is another bit of writing I thought you might enjoy
071556 -        glancing through, if time permits.  It relates to the war
071557 -        years, and the contract the Army let to construct the first
071558 -        digital computer, ENIAC, in about 1943.  I mentioned to Rita in
071559 -        our call that, in writing about the WWII period, I was struck
071560 -        by Lieutenant Goldstein's role, and that his story reminded me
071561 -        of your career, but more importantly your strong character.
071562 -        This is part of a larger story, maybe 300 - 400 pages, so I
071563 -        cautioned Rita about not copying the whole thing.  It is easy
071564 -        to read online using precision access. ref OF 11 GF5H
071566 -         ..
071567 -    9.  Thanks again for a wonderful letter.  I treasure all your
071568 -        writings, and wish we could have worked together on shaping
071569 -        ideas over the years.  You remain a continuing inspiration.
071571 -  ..
071572 - Uncle Jim provided feedback on differences between information and
071573 - knowledge, in his letter reviewed on 940722. ref SDS 3 8388  His
071574 - letter on 961006 was very encouraging, and illustrates how a powerful
071575 - working relationship might have evolved, if circumstances occurred
071576 - differently. ref SDS 5 0001
071578 -  ..
071579 - Another example, is Uncle Jim's letter on 970522 explaining why people
071580 - have a hard time recognizing better ideas to improve the work.
071581 - ref SDS 6 PP5L
071583 -  ..
071584 - Letter to Uncle Jim concludes...
071585 -
071586 -   10.  Millie sends love to you and Aunt Barbara.
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