CONTACTS 

SUBJECTS
Ron Useldinger
Richard Popejoy
Popejoy, Richard Jr.
Confidentiality, Secrecy, Security, Privacy

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0507 - Summary/Objective
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050801 - Follow up ref SDS 43 0000, ref SDS 41 0000.
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050803 - Donna said that Ron visited with his doctor at Kaiser on Wednesday,
050804 - 020710, and he evidently received clearance to drive his car.
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050806 - I asked who went with Ron to meet with the doctor at Kaiser on 020710,
050807 - as discussed in the record on 020619? ref SDS 36 537J and further at
050808 - ref SDS 36 QY8K
050809 -
050810 - What did the doctor actually say and how was this conveyed relative to
050811 - establishing Ron's ability to operate a motor vehicle under conditions
050812 - near his home, reported on 020619? ref SDS 36 MT4K
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050814 - Donna said nobody knew that Ron had an appointment at Kaiser this
050815 - past Wednesday.
050816 - ..
050817 - We reviewed the record on 020705 where Ron related a meeting was
050818 - scheduled at Kaiser for 020710. ref SDS 40 L19F  This was discussed
050819 - with Donna on 020706, ref SDS 41 F13G, and later with Krista, who said
050820 - that Kurt was attending meetings at Kaiser with his dad, ref SDS 41
050821 - YX7M, as previously reported on 020606. ref SDS 30 RH7K  The record on
050822 - 020705 showing Ron's scheduled visit at Kaiser on 020710, was
050823 - submitted to Krista and to Kurt on 020706, following telecon with
050824 - Krista. ref SDS 41 EH6N and further at ref SDS 41 EH4J
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050826 - Donna related that after getting information from the doctor,
050827 - which Ron interpreted as clearance to drive, Ron called a mechanic and
050828 - had his car towed in for service.  Mechanisms that had been removed to
050829 - disable the car for compliance with doctor's earlier instructions that
050830 - Ron should not drive, were restored, and Ron had a key made.  Donna
050831 - understands that he has called his children, Krista, Kevin and Kurt,
050832 - and said that he is driving again, because the DMV has not placed any
050833 - restrictions on him using his car.
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050835 - I explained that Ron was very frustrated during the visit with
050836 - Richard and I on 020705, saying he felt like a prisoner in his own
050837 - home, and that he hated having to call and inconvenience Kurt to get a
050838 - ride when he needs to go places. ref SDS 40 047O  So pressure has been
050839 - building for taking action, as Ron related several times during the
050840 - visit on 020705. ref SDS 40 MX8G
050841 -
050842 -     [On 020716 Ron called and explained he has obtained a driving
050843 -     certificate. ref SDS 44 0001
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050845 - Donna is worried about the risk of accident injuring Ron and others
050846 - if he continues to drive.
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050848 - I related Ron having mentioned during the visit on 020619 that he was
050849 - not able to drive the cars in his driveway. ref SDS 36 565M  At that
050850 - time he talked about passing a driving test in order to restore
050851 - driving privilege. ref SDS 36 X55N  When Richard and I visited on
050852 - 020705 he felt more strongly about this, ref SDS 40 047O, and said a
050853 - driving test had been scheduled several times to restore his driving
050854 - privileges, then deferred while his recovery from stroke progresses.
050855 - ref SDS 40 L19F
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050857 - Ron also spoke on 020705 about fear of not recovering enough to
050858 - resume normal activity, like driving. ref SDS 40 MX8G
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050860 - The news today is surprising based on background that his driving
050861 - license was revoked and that to be restored, he has to pass a driving
050862 - test.  Observing Ron drive on 020705 seemed to indicate he is still
050863 - handicapped by memory problems. ref SDS 40 LY9L  This was troubling to
050864 - Ron, but he seemed to recognize more recovery is needed. ref SDS 40
050865 - 576M  The new today, indicates his license has not been revoked and
050866 - so he does not have to pass a test.
050867 - ..
050868 - Donna said this evening that Ron has called the kids and been
050869 - angry and accusatory in recent days  He has expressed a strong
050870 - determination to regain authority over his life and be independent.
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050872 - She seemed to say that Ron's driving privileges have never officially
050873 - been revoked, and so there is nothing the kids can do to protect their
050874 - dad.
050875 - ..
050876 - We discussed how stroke victims have significant mood swings
050877 - caused by memory impairment, noted by Kurt on 020606. ref SDS 30 XE6F
050878 - Ron is a strong personality, so it can be expected that he will strike
050879 - out at times, and at other times he will be open to assistance, as
050880 - Richard and I observed on 020705. ref SDS 40 4W5G
050881 - ..
050882 - The family can work with Ron through his doctor and seek family
050883 - counseling.  There must be a lot of "experts" who help people work
050884 - through these very common transitions in life.  The critical issue is
050885 - his state of recovery and how much help he needs to maintain progress,
050886 - and to fill in the gaps in the event progress falters.
050887 - ..
050888 - Donna said that Richard Popejoy has not called yet, following
050889 - our discussion on 070206. ref SDS 41 GD6L
050890 -
050891 - I explained having given Richard her phone number and a number for
050892 - Krista on 020706, ref SDS 41 4D5M, and again yesterday.  At that time,
050893 - Richard indicated he might drive up to see Ron this weekend.
050894 - ref SDS 43 0001
050895 -
050896 - Donna was very happy about Richard going to visit Ron.  She feels that
050897 - being alone in his home on the mountain places an increased burden on
050898 - recovery, so the more people who can visit and is a big help.  I
050899 - suggested the family might also contact Ron Piersal and coordinate on
050900 - his next visit.  Ron talked about plans to attend a football game at
050901 - Notre Dame this fall with Ron, and so obviously thinks very highly of
050902 - him.
050903 - ..
050904 - Donna asked if Rob has talked to Ron since his stroke?
050905 -
050906 - I mentioned having sent Rob notice about Ron's condition, and that Ron
050907 - said on 020619 that he received a letter or card from Rob, and
050908 - appreciated it very much. ref SDS 36 TQ3K
050909 -
050910 - Donna was gracious thanking Richard and I for supporting Ron, and for
050911 - understanding challenges the family faces in trying to help him.
050912 -
050913 - I said that Richard was thinking about visiting Ron this weekend, so
050914 - that may shed more light on how things are going.  A key factor seems
050915 - to be the doctor's official position on Ron's medical condition, and
050916 - finding a way to get someone to be with him, as discussed in the
050917 - record on 020619. ref SDS 36 6M4K
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050919 - Donna has not seen the record of the visit with Ron on 020705,
050920 - but expects to see Krista this weekend, and will ask about it.
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