CONTACTS 

SUBJECTS
Leadership Helps People Take Paths they are
Ron Useldinger
Richard Popejoy
Donna Useldinger

0606 -    ..
0607 - Summary/Objective
0608 -
060801 - Follow up ref SDS 39 0000, ref SDS 38 0000.
060802 -
060803 - Called and got an email address for Richard's son, also, named
060804 - Richard.
060805 -
060806 - His son advised that he has tried sending his dad email in the past
060807 - and it has not been well received.
060808 -
060809 - Sent an email to Richard saying...
060810 -
060811 -     Richard,
060812 -
060813 -     Here is some stuff on our visit with Ron yesterday.  Let me know
060814 -     if you see anything that should be changed, added or omitted.
060815 -     ref SDS 39 0001
060816 -     ..
060817 -     You can type a reply with some ideas/suggestions, or call me
060818 -     to discuss edits.  Today and tomorrow I will be in the city at 415
060819 -     781 5700.
060820 -     ..
060821 -     I went ahead and mentioned the driving episode, because he
060822 -     may begin asking others in the family to let him drive and our
060823 -     efforts yesterday will come out; so, prefer to be proactive about
060824 -     how this disclosed. See what you think, and let me know if this is
060825 -     okay, since we talked yesterday after our visit about not
060826 -     mentioning this in the record. ref SDS 39 047O
060827 -     ..
060828 -     Enjoyed our visit, and was glad to hear how things are going
060829 -     with you.  Since you mentioned keeping in touch with Cathy, am
060830 -     sending a copy to her.
060831 -
060832 -        [On 020708 Kathy appreciated getting a copy of the record, and
060833 -        will print a copy for Richard. ref SDS 40 0001
060834 -
060835 - Richard's son can print it for his dad, if necessary.
060836 -
060837 -     I called Richard Jr., a few times over the weekend, and he seemed
060838 -     to be disappointed about helping his dad work with email, but
060839 -     said he would print the stuff.
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0610 -
0611 - 2029
0612 -
061201 - Called Donna.
061202 -
061203 - Got the phone number for Krista.
061204 -
061205 - Reviewed the record of the meeting with Ron on 020705. ref SDS 39 0001
061206 -
061207 - Donna did not know that Ron has a meeting with the doctor next
061208 - Wednesday, 020710, per Ron's comments yesterday. ref SDS 39 L19F  She
061209 - said the kids have been handling that.
061210 -
061211 -      [...below, discussed with Krista, ref SDS 0 YX7M, and sent notice
061212 -      to Krista via email, ref SDS 0 EH6N, and also to Kurt via email.
061213 -      ref SDS 0 EH4J
061214 -
061215 -      [On 020712 Donna relates that Ron met with the doctor at Kaiser
061216 -      and received clearance to drive. ref SDS 41 0001
061217 - ..
061218 - Told her that Richard may call her and Krista to discuss ideas.
061219 - Donna said this would be fine.
061220 -
061221 -      [...below, sent Richard a phone number for Donna. ref SDS 0 4D5M
061222 -
061223 -      [On 020712 Donna advised that Richard has not called. ref SDS 41
061224 -      VV8O
061225 -
061226 - Reviewed Ron's comments that he does not remember walking along
061227 - Highway 17, as Donna mentioned on 020703, ref SDS 38 C45H  He may have
061228 - walked down to the Highway to be picked up by a social service for
061229 - seniors. ref SDS 39 VL74
061230 - ..
061231 - Discussed Ron's thinking about renting to another tenant, now
061232 - the former tenants have moved. ref SDS 39 SG5O
061233 -
061234 - Donna explained that the tenants moved because they had an accident
061235 - while trying to turn onto the freeway from Eagle Creast Way, leaving
061236 - Ron's place.  This underscores the danger of Ron's location, and
061237 - supports the idea of him relocating to a safer place, per discussion
061238 - with Ron on 020705, ref SDS 39 RB5J, and earlier on 020619.
061239 - ref SDS 35 MT4K
061240 - ..
061241 - Donna asked if Richard had a speech therapist to aid his
061242 - recovery of memory following his heart attack, and she asked how long
061243 - it took Richard to recover and be able to start driving.
061244 - ..
061245 - I suggested that she talk to Richard about these points when he
061246 - calls.
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0616 -
061601 - Called Krista.
061602 -
061603 - Her email address is...
061604 -
061608 -
061609 - We reviewed the discussion with her dad and Richard yesterday.
061610 - ref SDS 39 0001
061611 - ..
061612 - She asked for Richard's phone number.  Will submit via email,
061613 - along with the record for yesterday.
061614 -
061615 - Krista did not know that her dad has a meeting with the doctor at
061616 - Kaiser scheduled for 020710, next Wednesday, as her dad related in our
061617 - visit yesterday. ref SDS 39 L19F  We reviewed advantages of family
061618 - members attending visits to the doctor so that Ron can be helped in
061619 - accurately remembering instructions. Krista said Kurt has been doing
061620 - this.
061621 -
061622 -      [On 020712 Donna relates that Ron met with the doctor at Kaiser
061623 -      and received clearance to drive. ref SDS 41 0001
061624 -
061625 - Krista related having discussed with her dad moving off the hill, and
061626 - he has oppossed this step so far.  She liked the idea that he keep his
061627 - house and return for weekend visits when he wishes, per discussion
061628 - with Ron yesterday. ref SDS 39 5844  In other words, this does not
061629 - have be an issue of giving up his house.
061630 - ..
061631 - Krista was pleased that we gave Ron a chance to drive the car
061632 - and that her dad recognized he has limitations. ref SDS 39 LY9L
061633 - ..
061634 - One way for the family to initiate this change is to suggest a
061635 - weekend "project" of going into town to look at places to see if there
061636 - are few he would like, without making a commitment to do anything.
061637 - After looking at different places, there can be discussions about what
061638 - he would like to do, with the understanding he is keeping his current
061639 - home, and can go there whenever he wishes.
061640 - ..
061641 - Krista thinks a move to Capitola is another possibility, because
061642 - then she can see him everyday, to check his blood pressure, and make
061643 - sure he is eating. She thinks the weight loss comes from him
061644 - forgetting to eat.
061645 -
061646 - Krista said that Ron has high blood pressure.  She thinks this may be
061647 - caused by pills Ron has taken for several years to pep him up.  She
061648 - has removed the pills she was able to find around the house, but asked
061649 - if Ron told us about taking these pills.
061650 - ..
061651 - Ron has not mentioned anything about this.
061652 -
061662 - ..
061663 - Submitted email to Krista with link to the record on 020705.
061664 - ref SDS 39 0001  Asked her to pass this along to her mom, as
061665 - follows....
061666 -
061667 -     Krista,
061668 -
061669 -     Good talking to you this evening.  Here is the record of the visit
061670 -     with your dad yesterday. ref SDS 39 0001
061671 -     ..
061672 -     I also visited Ron on 020619. ref SDS 35 0001
061673 -
061674 -     These records are a little long winded, but may provide helpful
061675 -     context to flesh out our discussion this evening and support
061676 -     planning going forward.
061677 -
061678 -     Please print a copy for your mom.  Thanks.
061679 -     ..
061690 -     Take care.
061691 -
061692 -     Rod
061693 -
061701 - ..
061702 - Sent Kurt a separate email saying...
061703 -
061704 -     Kurt,
061705 -
061706 -     Here is the result of visiting with your dad yesterday.
061707 -     ref SDS 39 0001
061708 -
061709 -        [On 020712 Donna said that Ron went to the doctor and got
061710 -        clearance to drive. ref SDS 41 0001
061711 -     ..
061712 -     I have talked to your mom and to Krista about this, and sent
061713 -     the record to Krista in a separate letter.
061714 -
061715 -     Take care.
061716 -
061717 -     Rod
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