CONTACTS 

SUBJECTS
Leadership Helps People Take Paths they are
Ron Useldinger
Carol Useldinger

0605 -    ..
0606 - Summary/Objective
0607 -
060701 - Follow up ref SDS 17 0000, ref SDS 16 0000.
060702 -
060703 - Richard said that Ron's youngest daughter died yesterday or the day
060704 - before.  She suffered from a very painful neurological disease called
060705 - RSDS.
060706 -
060707 - Richard thought at first the problem had been a drug overdose, but Ron
060708 - called him during our call and explained to Richard that the actual
060709 - cause of death.
060710 - ..
060711 - Richard seemed to confirm understandings from Rob on Saturday,
060712 - during Kathleen's memorial, that Ron has divorced and has retired.
060713 -
060714 -      [On 020614 Ron had a stroke. ref SDS 20 0001
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060717 - Richard has had difficulties, also.
060718 -
060719 - He is either divorced or separated from Cathy, for about 6 months.
060720 - Cathy is still at their house.  He is living with his oldest son, who
060721 - works for a contractor who does top-of-the-line finish carpentry.  His
060722 - son has become a highly skilled craftsman.  Richard still has some
060723 - communication with Cathy, and so it sounded like there might be a
060724 - chance for getting back together.
060725 -
060726 - Richard had a heart attack about 6 weeks ago, and had by-pass surgery.
060727 -
060728 -  ..
060729 - He is also suffering from diabetes.   This has has caused him to lose
060730 - about 50 pounds which is good.
060731 -
060732 - I raised the problem with our neighbor, Polly, down the hall, who
060733 - misssed a meal, and this caused severe problems.  So, Richard needs to
060734 - be with someone who can make sure he eats regularly.
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060737 - Richard seems to have lost interest in his business.  He is thinking
060738 - of selling it.  He still goes into the office twice a week, and wants
060739 - to be contacted by phone there....
060740 -
060744 - ...rather than at his son's home.  He said he is tired of getting a
060745 - lot of calls at his son's home.
060746 - ..
060747 - Richard mentioned several times concern only about staying
060748 - alive, which sounds very negative.  This seems a little strange based
060749 - on the extent that Richard has been engaged in the community, as well
060750 - as having a family and business.  He has been a strong fighter since
060751 - our high school days.
060752 -
060753 - Called Cathy at...
060754 -
060758 - ...and left a message expressing regret about their situation, and
060759 - mentioned that Richard and Cathy have been good friends all these
060760 - years.
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061101 - Called Ron.
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061107 - Left message expressing regret about Karol's death.
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0615 -
061501 - Called Ron again.
061502 - ..
061503 - He answered and said that Karol suffered from RSDS for about 5
061504 - or 6 years and experienced great pain.  She had morphine systems
061505 - embedded in her body which allowed her to block out the pain.  She
061506 - seems to have died because her body gave out dealing with the
061507 - morphine.
061508 - ..
061509 - Carol contracted the disease that is very rare through vigorous
061510 - exercise, is what it sounded like Ron said.
061511 -
061512 - She has been living with her mom, Donna, the past 5 years who has
061513 - cared for Carol.  Ron seemed to indicate he visited there yesterday,
061514 - so it was good news that he has been able to get together with Donna
061515 - again.  He seemed to say that Donna has, also, gotten divorced again.
061516 -
061517 - Ron sold his business and retired over a year ago in order to reach a
061518 - settlement with Gena in his divorce.  He seemed satisfied with the
061519 - divorce settlement, and mentioned that his lawyer complimented Ron's
061520 - organization of his business records that made reaching a settlement
061521 - favorable to Ron much easier.
061522 -
061523 - Ron, also, indicated that he continued to work for the person who
061524 - bought the business, in a consulting capacity.
061525 - ..
061526 - His son, Kirt, is still an architect.  Sounds like he may have
061527 - sold the furniture store.  Ron indicated that Kirt's business has
061528 - slowed following events of 010911, and that Kirt encountered contract
061529 - claims that have impacted his business.
061530 -
061531 - We did not discuss Krista and Keven.
061532 -
061533 - Ron has started a new company that will do direct sales of exercise
061534 - and/or inspirational speaking.  He is looking forward to getting back
061535 - to work full time.  Ron plans to invite Richard to go on speaking
061536 - engagements with him.  That will be a big plus to get Richard doing
061537 - things, per above. ref SDS 0 XX5M
061538 -
061539 - Ron seemed to be aware of Richard's diabetes, and said that this has
061540 - become one of the biggest causes of early death in the US, due to
061541 - people being overweight.
061542 - ..
061543 - Ron's email address is....
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SUBJECTS
Donna Useldinger

0704 - 1051
0705 -   ..
070501 - Asked Ron for Donna's number.
070502 -
070506 - Called and talked to Donna.
070507 -
070508 - We took a few moments to get re-aquainted after nearly 20 years.
070509 -
070510 - Expressed condolence for Karol's loss.
070511 -
070512 - Donna explained that Karol's passing was a blessing that gives her
070513 - relief from the pain she suffered the past few years.
070514 - ..
070515 - We remembered the good times during the early and mid-60s, and
070516 - into the 70s, when Ron and Donna and the kids were an extended family.
070517 - In 1961 Robby and I drove to Orgeon with Ron, Donna and the kids to
070518 - see the finals for the college wrestling tournament. Rob and I sort of
070519 - took care of the kids in the back seat.  So we have known Karol since
070520 - she was born.
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070522 - Through the 60s, Ron was a successful coach in wrestling and later in
070523 - football.  He became a major figure for Rob and I, and for many others
070524 - along with the entire culture at Cupertino High School by bringing the
070525 - school its first state championship in a sport.  Donna was the coach's
070526 - wife who took care of the home front while Ron was conquering sports
070527 - in Cupertino.  After high school Ron and Donna graciously welcomed me
070528 - into their home as a friend.  I helped Krista with her home work, and
070529 - helped Ron with his summer work rotatilling.  Later Ron went into
070530 - business and we worked together briefly on occassion.
070531 - ..
070532 - Donna remembered showing me their new house, when they made a
070533 - big financial decision.
070534 -
070535 - We laughed today, about how being a coach and successful businessman,
070536 - as Ron did, gives the man-of-the-house a feeling of being in charge,
070537 - wearing a commander's hat.  It gets hard to take that hat off and put
070538 - on the sharing command hat when you get home, and this led to Ron and
070539 - Donna splitting up.
070540 -
070541 - Donna said she and Ron are able to talk as friends, with the old
070542 - annimosities behind them.
070543 -
070544 - I was glad because everybody loved them both as a couple.
070545 -
070546 - Donna is a grandmother now.  One of her children has 5 kids.
070547 - ..
070548 - There will be a memorial for Karol this Saturday at Kurt's
070549 - house.
070550 -
070551 - The office number to get information for sending flowers is....
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0709 -
070901 - Called Kurt's office.
070902 - ..
070903 - Talked to the secretary.
070904 - ..
070905 - She could not give me Kirt's home address to send flowers for
070906 - the memorial.  Said Kurt had stepped out for a few minutes and would
070907 - be back shortly.  Left my number for Kurt to call back.
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070909 - She said they have not decided yet whether the memorial will be on
070910 - Saturday or Sunday.
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